Has anyone else been experiencing these post-graduation blues accompanied by an overwhelming feeling of not quite knowing who you are? I graduated from college 2 years ago. I have been an adult for two whole years and I still have no idea what I am doing. How do you know which next steps to take? Should I go to grad school? Move to NYC? Get a bigger apartment in LA? What am I trying to accomplish? How am I going to get there?
It would be nice if I knew the answers to half of these questions; I don’t. But I do know what I’m trying to accomplish. I want to empower women to empower themselves. I want women to know me and know that they can conquer the world. I want to be the wild-child successful sassy friend that motivates her friends to take risks and bet on themselves too. Have I figured out how to monetize that and make it a career? Nope!
Why is it so hard for us to figure out what we’re supposed to be doing? I said fuck traditional standards a long time ago. The adults have it all wrong. I am not a fan of working my ass off, for low pay, to build someone else’s dream while they make all the money. That sounds like a horrible time and I’m not doing it. (Unless building that person’s dream helps with building your dream, then go for it!). Otherwise, what is the point?
Helping people lead better lives is what I know I love doing. Learning how to turn that into a career is the part I need to learn. I am the queen of side hustles, but I s a l i v a t e thinking about being able to spend all of my time just doing something I love. Like how incredible would that be?
I know I will do something incredible, something far above average, in this crazy amazing world. But I also know that as with anything else, we need time to build our crafts. We need time to learn our stories. I need time to know myself, so that I can best serve this world. I do not need to be lost in society’s version of cubical success. Who am I helping there? That’s not what matters to me.
It’s no secret that successful people tend to love what they do. I could never be truly successful at something I didn’t love, because I’d never really care. If I’m going to reach my greatest potential, I need to know who I am so that I can monetize my passions and be excited about growing my business because I genuinely love it. There is no cap on that kind of success. I can use what I love to make a better way for myself and my family (and even my future puppy!). I can be happy and successful, and I can build my career around the life I want to live, and not the other way around. I can have the freedom to be my best self, and be successful doing it.
We have to put ourselves first and invest in us. Start now, get to know yourself, work towards your goal a little more every day, and have a tiny castle in 5 years. You can take your time reaching the pinnacle of your potential, you just have to start.
The thing with not being like the generation before us, is that we get to make a new path. Sometimes I have no clue what I’m going to do next. Sometimes I think, “omg what if I royally f*cked up and I should’ve just gone to law school this entire time? Now what?!” And then I buckle down and I figure it out. Just like with anything else. It’s not easy because it doesn’t exist yet. Want to know something cool? The wheel only needed to be a success once and it worked forever on. We just started even thinking about constructing the wheel, there are many more trials to be had; we are nowhere near done.
My next steps: I will work on encouraging women every day, in some way. I will take the time to get to know myself, and I will research successful entrepreneurs so that I can learn how they did it. I can admit that I don’t know my five, ten, or twenty year plan. And I can admit that I don’t give a fuck. Because if I knew it, that would take all the fun out of getting there. I’m betting on myself, getting to know me, and building my story as I live it. I hope I inspire you to do the same. Stay tuned!
**Update: I will also write one blog post a day to get in the habit of consistently creating content, whether or not I think it’s amazing. If I’m not creating content, how can I learn what kind of content creator I’ll be? If I do not comply, please yell at me on social media.🌸🌸🌸
What are your next steps?