Today was crazy scary, but in a good way. Everything aligned. My website aesthetic is almost orgasmic, I have photos for my Instagram ads, and I have a red she loves me not baseball cap launching just in time for Valentine’s Day. Life is great.
Except I feel like I’m faking it and someone is going to find out soon and tell the teacher that I don’t belong here. I design corsets and trade stocks. Day trading is a fairly new hobby, but I’ve already started making money and it’s fun so I like it. But also, who the f*ck does that? What girl day trades in her free time? I must be a fraud. I can’t run a company; they’re going to find out.
Why do we do this to ourselves? What value is there in turning all of your accomplishments into nagging feedback? Sometimes I wish I had all the answers.
Here’s what I do know: when I’m not sure I can do something I look at another woman who did it. Emily Weiss founded Glossier when she was 29. She dominated social media, disrupted an entire industry, and sells awesome makeup and skincare worth over a billion dollars.
“Imposter syndrome can be defined as a collection of feelings of inadequacy that persist despite evident success. ‘Imposters‘ suffer from chronic self-doubt and a sense of intellectual fraudulence that override any feelings of success or external proof of their competence” – Harvard Business Review.
Here’s the thing: by definition suffering from imposter’s syndrome means you have already achieved evident success. How are you not good enough if you’ve already done it? How are you not good enough if you’ve already accomplished all those other things that got you here? Your self doubt is just that, yours. Let it go.
Look at a woman who is doing exactly what you want to do so that you can remind yourself that it can be done. Research her and learn from exactly what she did. Maybe email her and thank her for creating a path for you where there wasn’t one #potentialmentor. Watch the Beyonce Formation video 100 times back to back. Tap into your inner womanhood that reminds you of your strength, grace, and dignity and step up with a smile.
You deserve to be here. You earned this. Now please excuse me while I get back to running my company and building my legacy. Thank you for coming to my Ted Talk.